Narcissist = Flaw

Narcissist - A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. – Google

A person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish. – Dictionary.com

The pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. –Wikipedia

Narcissism is seen as a negative trait. It is even considered a disorder that is found more in people ages 19-40.

I don’t believe it to be as extreme as a disorder for me so let's focus on the definitions provided: excessive admiration in self, selfish, and the gratification from vanity. I will admit that is all me right there, the reason for this blog, and the reasoning of my thinking but is that a bad thing? From the definitions, what do you gather? Words like excessive, vain, selfish, and egotistic reflect negative vibes. Why is loving yourself negative? I am not implying that other people don’t matter or that the world revolves around me. I am saying that people are fully capable of admiring themselves and thinking highly of themselves while also being considerate of others.

Confident – Feeling or showing confidence in oneself; self-assured. – Google

Having strong belief or full assurance; sure – Dictionary.com

A common meaning of a certainty about handling something, such as work, family, social events, or relationships. – Wikipedia

The majority of people believe that being "confident" is a positive trait but from the definitions provided, it shows that "narcissism" and "confidence" generally mean the same thing. What went wrong there? Were the definitions too vague? I mean they used trigger words for effect, that must have given an indication that the two words differ. But did it? Did the providers do their job to accurately provide concise and clear definitions?

In my opinion, I do not believe so. I do believe the two words are different as I honestly love the word “narcissist” and feel as if I embody that trait more than “confident”. I am not 100 percent sure in myself, but I do love myself, I do know that I have much of myself to work on, and I am focused on myself to become confident and sure. That also does not mean that I lack interest in others. On the contrary, I love learning about others as life is the most enjoyable entertainment for me. Life is experienced differently for everyone. People have their own views, passions, flaws, etc. and how they consciously and subconsciously decide to interact with others is what makes them unique.

I have asked a couple of people “do you ever wonder what a stranger's day is like?”, their answers have all been the same. Now I ask you, do you ever wonder what your mother, sibling, best friend, boss is doing when you are not around? Lives are being lived all around us. Showing excessive interest in yourself is not wrong as long as you have that same energy with others.